You are not your opinion, are you?

The explanation of Eckhart Tolle about our identification with our opinion is so valuable because at this moment in time when people seem to 'seek' polarization, feeling offended so easily, have strong opinions about everything.... we need to be more self-aware to create a better and peaceful world.

At the moment, people might feel more fearful and insecure about the future. This could increase their need to defend themselves (their opinions, mental positions), but this leads to a sense of even more fear and insecurity. The ego will be more prominent to protect itself, resulting in more stress, and it starts all over again..... This is why this post is so important for all people to understand and to practice.

The story is just an example of people who can have opposite opinions and how to deal with it in the best way possible. Enjoy!

“My husband holds extremely different political views from mine. He believes in war, guns, Fox News and Sarah Palin (you may replace Trump as it is with mine). I do not. How do I constructively handle our differences?"

ECKHART TOLLE: Viewpoints, opinions, and mental positions are all thoughts – the thought says "this is how it is", it is some kind of judgment or perspective on things. To be identified with a mental position is to derive your sense of self from that mental position. It's a substitute identity, form identity, ego – a substitute for your true identity which is formless and has nothing to do with any thought – but is consciousness itself. This is a good opportunity for not giving up your thoughts – you are not required to watch Fox News, but if he is there watching Fox News, and the sound is there filling the house, you can either ask him to turn it down or close the door, or surrender to what is, or walk out, or ask him to walk out.

There are many choices, other than negativity. The main thing is mental positions – to withdraw your identification. You can still have your position, but there's no ‘self' in it anymore – it does not supply your sense of identity. Then you can allow somebody else to have their mental position. Perhaps you can then discover that beyond both your and your husband's mental positions – there is something beyond, where you are not in conflict.

Beyond his thoughts and your thoughts - there is a deeper understanding.

Your first responsibility is not to identify with a position. Everybody has to practice that one way or another. It's a beautiful practice. It's expressed in Zen. I don't remember who said it, some Zen master said, "Don't seek for the truth – just cease cherishing opinions". And that's enough. Many spiritually inclined people look for the ‘truth' – hopefully at some point within, but first it starts outside.

But don't look for the truth, not even within, just stop cherishing opinions. Cherishing, not having. It doesn't say stop having opinions, because that would be difficult – maybe a very advanced practice. Even I have some opinions, about Fox News, and so on – but cherishing means to identify with the opinion, to be in the thought. And then it gives you your sense of "I". Then anybody who has a different or conflicting position becomes a kind of enemy. Then you're trapped in (physical) form. This is a very common human condition. Most humans on the planet derive their identity from their thoughts. So the thought is invested with self (but it is basically separate). Maybe this is another way of speaking about the essential truth of the Buddha, who discovered that this sense of ‘self' is an illusion. You derive your sense of self from 'form' – because every thought is a thought-form. It's an energy field that comes and goes all the time. Until you pay attention to it and it becomes a thought pattern that could be positive or negative.

If this were your only spiritual practice, it would be enough. If you can try, for example, talking to the questioner, your husband can then become your spiritual teacher because he can continuously remind you not to be identified with mental positions. Then, you don't resist the other person's mental position, because you don't need to – you allow it to be. You can even allow your own mental position to be. If you resist someone else's mental position, you only strengthen it. Try arguing with him about Fox News or Sarah Palin, and you'll see what I mean.

You may find the miracle that it can happen quite easily, that somebody's mental position either weakens or it may even dissolve when it's not resisted – because it needs resistance to strengthen itself, and to gain energy through fighting another. It's quite miraculous to see how it can happen when it's not resisted, when it is allowed: "I know that's what you think, and that's okay".