Indulge yourself to find
happiness
Essence Coaching New Zealand focus on increasing the well-being of people by offering:
1. A new perspective on your relationships with yourself, others and life.
2. How to deal with difficult situations in a new and very effective way.
3. How to pack light on Life's journey, even with the baggage you carry at this moment.
4. How to develop Self-awareness and gain a new perspective on your thoughts & feelings.
5. New insights on the topics that feel like a struggle to you and why you suffer.
6. How to become the creator of the future that you want.
How to increase your well-being?
Unaware
Do you believe that other people are:
- more successful?
- happier
- more connected with others?
- stronger, more intelligent or more beautiful than you?
- less struggling with their feelings?
- expressing themselves easier?
- more authentic, without a mask or walls?
Are you sick of feeling lost, alone, depressed, and empty inside?
Do you want to find out more about your true self, the Ego, self-love or creating happiness?
Self-awareness
Your identity is based on your life story
Self-image
Low self-worth
Low self-esteem
Burden (shame / guilt)
Non-acceptance of your shadow
Resistance to life (the present moment)
Struggle with feelings
Can’t make others proud
Inner speech (inner critic)
The mask / wall
•Reconnect to your feelings without judgment or labeling
•Accepting the current moment (see it as a teacher and learn your lessons – contrast will help you to find your path)
•Not identified with thoughts – you are not your perfect vision, you are not your stories (past)
•You are learning all the time throught life itself. Without resistance, and making conscious choices to change
•Follow the path of joy
•An animal has no opinion of itself.
Ambition, purpose, joy in what you do
Balance
Feeling good in your body
Positive mindset – every situation will provide possebilities
Negative thoughts are ego-mind related (just ignore)
Learned my life-lessons and still learning
I accept myself for what I am
I accept other for what they are
Life is a part of myself, not something separate
I can influence my future by creating what I like.
I am not afraid of my feelings. I allow them to guide me.
I am never alone, I can always be supported by like-minded people.
I am hope for others, who are less aware of who they are.
Things to improve about yourself
The Ego-identity
- do you like to be defined by your past?
- do you fear other people's opinions?
- can you fully accept yourself?
- can you love yourself?
- are you trying to be better than others?
- are you a pleaser?
- are you a perfectionist?
Beliefs
- do you only see what you believe?
- are you open-minded?
- are your beliefs holding you back in life?
- what is your strongest belief and does it serves you in life?
- are your beliefs allowing you to be non-judgmental?
- are your beliefs supporting you to be compassionate to yourself?
RELATIONSHIPS
BEING GOOD ENOUGH
Who are you really?
my mission
This is where we’re stuck. So many of us feel the pressure from society, from our peers and most especially from our families. There is so much pressure to be happy, upbeat and to do it ALL!
We get steamrolled by the advertising and hype. We have to buy presents for this person and that person. It is so easy in this overwhelming time to just lose yourself, to lose your power and lose sight of why you’re here and what you’re supposed to be doing.
Stop focusing on the expectations, the advertising and the craziness … just let it go.
Instead, commit to yourself. Commit to nurture yourself and allow these miracles to be at the forefront of your experience rather than society’s expectations.
We get in our own way. We lose our POWER and feel like we are supposed to do things rather than really BE in the moment. The moment of the MIRACLE that is right NOW!
If you’re not committing to be you and to fully own what it is you want to do with your time and energy than that’s when things go haywire!
Self-care is so critical at this time of year … whether it is taking a bath at the end of the night, reading a good book or getting out and exercising.
My mission is to guide and inspire others who are walking the path of self-empowerment through inside-out understanding and self-love.
Henk van der Ven is a licensed Holistic therapist and Transformational coach. He has integrated the principles of Mindfulness, psychotherapy, spiritual psychology and eastern healing practices.
His holistic approach is focussed on the well-being, personal growth and empowerment of his clients.
This helps people gain important insights about life itself, their role and purpose. It all starts with introducing self-awareness and self-inquiry. What to let go, and what to question about old limiting beliefs and values? How to empower yourself and be able to witness your own thoughts and feelings from a distance.
His specialties are:
- Stress management
- Improved personal identity (not the Ego)
- Dealing with overthinking (worrying, scenarios, anxiety, beliefs)
- Finding direction in life (fulfilment)
- Creating balance on mental, physical, emotional, energetic and spiritual levels.
He teaches how to improve self-awareness by new insights about yourself that will change your perspective on life. Therefore it will enable you to feel balanced, peaceful & empowered.
For open-minded and self-aware people, I am also offering a 'fast track' method in spiritual awakening and conscious awareness using the most essential spiritual teachings.
My favourite spiritual teachers are Eckhart Tolle, Adyashanti, dr. Joe Dispenza, Jeff Foster, dr. Bruce Lipton and Allan Watts.
